Shiur #08:Mitzvot Bein Adam Le-atzmoand Building Character
Bein Adam Le-chavero: Ethics of Interpersonal Conduct
By Rav Binyamin Zimmerman
This weeks shiurim are dedicated by Drs. Irving and
in memory of Jonas Strauchler zl
Shiur #08: Mitzvot Bein Adam Le-atzmo and Building Character
Three Elements of Mitzvot
In last weeks lesson, we arrived at the conclusion that interpersonal mitzvot in fact carry with them a threefold obligation. As divine commandments, they are bein adam la-Makom, obligations to God. Furthermore, they are also uniquely bein adam le-chavero, distinct from other commandments in expressing ones responsibility to ones neighbor. However, beyond these requirements, they also entail a unique responsibility to oneself. The source for the Jewish obligation of performing chesed, kind acts, is the biblical mandate of Ve-halakhta bi-drakhav," And you will follow His ways (Devarim 28:9), which focuses not only on action; it is essentially an obligation to develop an ethos of kindness. Following Gods ways is neither about ones fellow, nor even God Himself (directly), but rather oneself and developing a godly persona.
This third element is defined as bein adam le-atzmo, between man and himself. Man is not only asked to develop his relationship with God and to achieve positive results on behalf of his friend, but to transform himself as well. Each Jew must maintain control over his or her environment and actions, behaving in a manner befitting the Jewish tzelem Elokim in which one is created.
The Three Fundamental Aspects of the Mitzvot
The fact that there are some mitzvot which are dedicated solely to God, while others are directed primarily towards ones fellow man, is well-accepted. The question then arises: what is the significance of this third class of mitzvot, those which are intrapersonal, bein adam le-atzmo? After all, should not the two categories of bein adam le-chavero and bein adam la-Makom include everything? What is the nature of these mitzvot bein adam le-atzmo?
In a number of contexts, a few of the great commentators have explained difficult passages based on the understanding of this third category, mitzvot bein adam le-atzmo, alongside the interpersonal and ritual mitzvot. Analyzing their explanations will help us understand the importance of this classification.
In our first lesson, we referred to the passage at the end of Makkot (24a) which details the various prophets who focused their generations attention on specific mitzvot in order to ensure that the people maintained a proper understanding of the wider Jewish tradition. There, the Talmud notes that Mikha stresses three elements:
The prophet Mikha came and established them [i.e., the fulfillment of the six hundred thirteen commandments] upon three [ethical requirements], as it is written: He has told you what is good and what God demands of you: only  to do justice,  to love kindness (ahavat chesed),  and to walk humbly with your God (Mikha 6:8)
Rav Yaakov Ettlinger, in his commentary Arukh La-ner (ad loc.), explains that the three requirements noted by Mikha are in fact synonymous with the three fundamental aspects of Jewish religious life referred to above.
Mikha lists three elements in accordance with three types of mitzvot; mitzvot between man and God, mitzvot between man and his fellow man, and reflexive mitzvot between man and himself. Regarding reflexive mitzvot, he mentions the requirement of justice, weighing ones actions to ensure that one is wholesome. Regarding interpersonal mitzvot, he includes the requirement of ahavat chesed; regarding ritual requirements, he says that one should walk humbly with God.
Essentially, Mikha is teaching the Jews of his generation that the three fundamental requirements of religious life are ensuring one is acting kindly towards ones brethren, forging a humble relationship with God and developing a virtuous personality of weighing carefully ones behavior. Doing so allows one to master the three elements of mitzvot bein adam la-Makom, le-chavero and le-atzmo.
Mikha refers to the element of bein adam le-atzmo as justice, properly and objectively evaluating ones actions, a necessary ingredient for ensuring one can build a wholesome personality. While the other two types of mitzvot relate to the action itself and its object, be it ones neighbor or God, the third element focuses on ones thought process. It anchors itself in the command center of a persons body, in the mind, allowing one to build a thoughtful and balanced personality.
Three Elements of Becoming a Chasid
Acknowledging a third class of mitzvot might help us understand a fascinating discussion in the Talmud. This passage (Bava Kamma 30a) relates what seem to be three divergent opinions regarding what section of the Talmud must be studied and put into practice in order for one to become a chasid, a truly pious and righteous individual.
Rav Yehuda said: One who wishes to be a chasid should fulfill the words of Nezikin.
Rava said: [He should fulfill] the words of Avot.
And others said: [He should fulfill] the words of Berakhot.
At first glance, the passage seems to present three divergent opinions, albeit two of them rather original, as to the area of law most necessary for becoming pious. However, a number of commentators posit that these three opinions might not be arguing as much as presenting three necessary areas of expertise necessary for devoutly pious behavior, each focusing on a different fundamental aspect of Judaism.
The Maharsha (ad loc.) writes that all of a persons actions relate to God, to others or to oneself. Each opinion expressed in the passage focuses on one of these three categories. The study of Nezikin, encompassing civil, criminal and commercial law, allows one to perfect those actions relating to others. The study of the ethical and moral dicta in Avot helps to develop ones own character traits. Finally, the study of Berakhot, which details the laws of prayers and blessings, serves to govern the relationship between man and God. The three areas of concentration discussed in the passage do not represent three opposing opinions, but three necessary facets of religious life. A prospective chasid must pay close attention to the laws that govern the relationship between man and his fellow man, as expressed in Nezikin, must master the ethical teaching in Avot and must learn to appreciate the power and art of liturgy in Berakhot.
Three Pillars of Existence
The Gra, the Gaon of Vilna, in his commentary to Yeshayahu (Beiur Ha-Gra, Yeshayahu 1:2), takes this idea one step further. The Gra explains that the number three plays a pivotal role in the prophecies at the beginning of the book of Yeshayahu, for it represents the triad of Judaism. He points out that in the opening prophecy of Yeshayahu, the Jewish people are referred to by three names, banim (children), Yisrael (Israel), and ammi (My nation). The Gra explains that these terms represent the three basic elements of the Torah, and he delineates them.
First, the Gra explains, these are the three categories of mitzvot: bein adam le-chavero, bein adam la-Makom and what he calls middot (traits) that are le-atzmo. He adds, following the Maharsha, that these are also the three elements of perfection one needs in order to become the chasid mentioned in Bava Kamma; however, he expands this notion by arguing that not only are these the three elements of mitzvot, but they are in fact the three pillars of the world. As the mishna in Avot teaches:
Shimon the Righteous used to say: The world stands on three things: Torah, serving God and acts of kindness. (Avot 1:2)
The Vilna Gaon (ibid.) states: These three elements of mitzvot are the three pillars of the world Torah is le-atzmo; serving God is bein adam la-Makom; and acts of kindness are le-chavero.
Interestingly, the Gra identifies the pillar of Torah as the one that relates to personal perfection. While we might have identified the pillar of Torah with ritual mitzvot, the Gra seems to understand that the essence of Torah study is directed towards opening up ones character to create a deeply wholesome personality.
The Transformative Power of Mitzvot Bein Adam Le-atzmo
We have seen that these great commentators, the Vilna Gaon, Maharsha, and Rav Ettlinger, invoke the concept of bein adam le-atzmo in contexts where the Talmud stresses three fundamental elements of religious observance. They also indicated that the idea of bein adam le-atzmo is detailed in Avot, defined by weighing ones actions objectively (doing justice) and serves as a major focus of ones living in accordance with the Torah. With this in mind, let us return to last weeks discussion and deepen our understanding of this issue.
In last weeks lesson, we pointed out that the source for the obligation of the bein adam le-atzmo element is Ve-halakhta bi-drakhav," following in the ways of God. The Rambam, as we saw, understands this as an obligation to develop a virtuous personality.
This idea is not academic; it allows us to take a completely new look at the mitzvot as a whole. Often, we think of them in terms of obligations and responsibilities, forgetting the spirit of the law. While this is always unfortunate, in the area of interpersonal behavior this may be devastating, as a major element of the mitzva will not be realized. The bein adam le-atzmo element is aimed at ensuring that we do not limit our focus to the actions; instead, we may look at the inner source and evaluate ourselves.
This also extends our obligation above and beyond specific mitzvot; we are bound to develop the personality of one who is capable of walking in the ways of God consistently and constantly. What character serves as the source of these actions? We must learn not only what the Torah wants from us, but who it wants us to be.
In the area of ethics, the bein adam le-atzmo element teaches us that even if we excel in bringing happiness and pleasure to others, we are still spiritually lacking if we fail to develop a personality to which these actions comes naturally. In order to do so, we must look deeper in the Torah, weigh our actions and identify those character traits which must be developed in order to nurture this divinely inclined ethos.
The Thirteen Divine Attributes of Mercy
The idea of walking in the ways of God by modeling our characters after His attributes may be behind the idea of reciting the thirteen attributes of mercy (middot shel rachamim), as they appear in Shemot 34:6-7. They are the central refrain of the Selichot service of penitential prayers, and they are a pivotal part of the Yom Kippur liturgy. At first glance, the significant role of the repeated recitation of the 13 attributes in achieving forgiveness is surprising. However, the Talmud is quite adamant about its remarkable powers. God teaches Moshe this order as an antidote for sin, as expressed in Rabbi Yochanans statement concerning the 13 middot:
"And God passed before him and proclaimed (Shemot 34:6) Rabbi Yochanan said: Were it not written in the text, it would be impossible for us to say such a thing! This verse teaches us that God wrapped Himself like a cantor and showed Moshe the order of prayer. He said to him: Whenever Israel sin, let them carry out this order before Me, and I will forgive them. (Rosh Hashana 17b)
The passage continues and goes one step further, expounding the verse which describes Gods making a covenant with Moshe (ibid. v. 10), that There is a covenant made with the thirteen attributes, that they do not return empty-handed.
What is the source of their power? What appears to be some mystical formula capable of evoking Divine forgiveness may in fact be an expression of the power of the idea of bein adam le-atzmo. Only once we analyze how God interacts with the world may we translate it and apply it to our activities; only then may we understand how to inculcate it into our personalities. Understanding the word middot will hopefully make this more clear.
Tikkun Ha-middot Character Development:
The Hebrew term middot is sometimes used to refer to attributes, while at other times it is used to refer to ones character. The Rambam describes at length in his Guide to the Perplexed the discussion between Moshe and God about the formers desire to understand the attributes of the latter, when he asks to be shown Gods glory and His way (Shemot 33:13,18).
The Rambam (1:54) describes what Moshe is asking for:
It is therefore clear that the ways which Moshe wishes to know, and which God teaches him, are the actions emanating from God. Our Sages call them middot and speak of the thirteen middot of God, but they use the term also in reference to man, e.g., "There are four different middot among those who go to the study hall" (Avot 5:13).
The Rambam continues by defining the relationship between the middot of man and the middot of God.
They do not mean to say that God really possesses middot, but that He performs actions similar to those actions which we may perform as a manifestation of certain qualities, i.e., in certain mental dispositions, not that God has in fact such mental dispositions. Although Moshe was shown "all His goodness," i.e., all His works, only the thirteen middot are enumerated, because they include those acts of God which refer to the creation and the government of mankind. To know these acts was the principal object of the prayer of Moshe
We have thus shown that the biblical ways" and Mishnaic "middot" are identical, denoting the acts which emanate from God through the universe.
But why is it so important to translate the actions of God into middot understandable to our perception? The Rambam explains that doing so allows us to model our characters upon those godly attributes accessible to man.
Whenever any one of His actions is perceived by us, we ascribe to God that emotion which is the source of the act were we to perform it, and we call Him by an epithet which is formed from the verb expressing that emotion. We see, e.g., how well He provides for the life of the embryo of living beings; how He endows with certain faculties both the embryo itself and those who have to rear it after its birth, in order that it may be protected from death and destruction, guarded against all harm and assisted in the performance of all that is required. Similar acts, when performed by us, are due to a certain emotion and tenderness, called mercy and pity. God is, therefore, said to be merciful, e.g., "Like as a father is merciful to his children, so the Lord is merciful to those who fear Him" (Tehillim 103:13).
The Rambam concludes the chapter by explaining that while God is unchanging and His middot are merely the ways in which we perceive His actions, the importance of knowing them lies in our being able to model our characters after them.
We have shown why it suffices to mention only these out of all of His acts: namely, because these are the ones required for the good government of a country; for the chief aim of man should be to make himself, as far as possible, similar to God: that is to say, to make his acts similar to the acts of God, or as our Sages expressed it in explaining the verse, "You shall be holy" (Vayikra 19:2), as they said (Sifrei Devarim 11:22). Just as He is called merciful, so should you be merciful; just as He is called gracious, so should you be gracious.
Based on the understanding of the Rambam, we may reappraise the power granted to the recitation of the thirteen attributes in the Talmud; we may at least begin to comprehend. These are thirteen attributes which we identify in Gods actions that are guidelines upon which to model ourselves. These middot are what God teaches Moshe will bring our forgiveness. The recitation of the thirteen attributes is not meant to be a magical formula as much as a prescription for developing our characters. We cannot suffice with the mere recital of the attributes; we must model our lives after them and inculcate them into our very beings.
In fact this seems to jibe with a careful reading of the language of the text in the Talmud. Rabbi Yochanan has God saying to Moshe: Whenever Israel sin, let them carry out this order before Me, and I will forgive them. Their power does not lie in mere recitation, but in action and inculcation into ones being. It is the actions which impress upon ones character the middot of God that engender the godly personality which the Torah desires. Tanna De-vei Eliyahu Zuta (Ch. 23) goes one step further mentioning that the power of the recital depends on the Jewish people standing united in one band. The middot cannot be mere lip service; only when they are practiced until brotherhood is created are they potent.
The element of bein adam le-atzmo seeks to transform one from merely knowing how to deal with others and make them happy to actually caring about others. The end result is a person who knows that the greatest moments in history are always in private, without fanfare; who is aware that the real yardstick of character is not how one acts with others however important that may be but the type of person one is. Does one maintain fidelity to the godly character within himself or herself?
This may also explain why sometimes the recital of the thirteen attributes does not seem to achieve the desired result. Its recital, however many times it may be repeated, is just as much a message to ourselves as a prayer to God, empowering Him to act with His attributes of mercy, as we develop our personalities based upon them.
How to Treat the Canaanite Slave
The understanding of the bein adam le-atzmo element allows us to understand a fundamental phenomenon expressed by the Rambam. The Rambam (Hilkhot Avadim 9:8) points out that in terms of the letter of the law, one may treat his non-Jewish slave rather severely, as he writes: It is permissible to have a Canaanite slave perform excruciating labor.
The license to treat ones slave harshly is hard to comprehend at first glance; we must therefore continue reading the ruling.
The Rambam continues:
Although this is the law, the attribute of piety and the way of wisdom is for a person to be merciful and to pursue justice, not to make his slaves carry a heavy yoke, nor cause them distress. He should allow them to partake of all the food and drink [he serves]. The earlier sages would give to their slaves from every dish of which they themselves would partake. In addition, they would provide food for their animals and their slaves before partaking of their own meals.
Moreover, it is written (Tehillim 123:2) As the eyes of slaves to their masters hand, as the eyes of a maidservant to her mistresss hand [so are our eyes to Lord our God]. Similarly, we should not embarrass a slave by our deeds or words, for the Torah prescribes that they provide service, not that they be humiliated. Nor should one shout or vent anger upon them extensively. Instead, one should speak to them gently, and listen to their claims. This is explicitly stated with regard to the positive paths of Iyov for which he was praised (Iyov 31:13, 15)
Essentially, the Rambam tells us that though it is permitted to treat a non-Jewish slave harshly, Jewish tradition is to treat ones slave as an honored guest in ones home, providing the royal treatment.
However, the Rambam does not stop there; in fact, he presents a fundamental tenet of Jewish values in the process.
Cruelty and arrogance are found only amongst idol-worshiping non-Jews. By contrast, the descendants of our patriarch Avraham, i.e. the Jews, to whom the Holy One, Blessed be He, grants the goodness of the Torah and prescribes righteous statutes and judgments, are merciful to all.
Similarly, with regard to the attribute of the Holy One, Blessed be He, which He commands us to emulate, it is written (Tehillim 145:9) His mercies are upon all of His works. Furthermore, whoever shows mercy to others will have mercy shown to him, as it says in (Devarim 13:18): And he will give you compassion and love you and increase you.
The Rambam begins by delineating what is permitted act, but he concludes his discussion by championing the Jewish tradition, based on Israels unique ancestral heritage: the Jew emulates God by walking in His merciful ways. Had we limited Jewish ethical duties to the mitzvot between man and his fellow or man and his God, than one would have stopped after the opening statement of the Rambam, because there is no direct requirement to treat ones Canaanite slave with honor. However, the character of a Jew the attribute of piety and the way of wisdom makes a Jew especially merciful, so that it is impossible to show undeserved cruelty to another human being.
As the conclusion of the Rambam informs us, when all is said and done, a Jew who is in touch with his spiritual DNA, inherited from Avraham, is incapable of treating a fellow human being, even his slave, harshly. All the more so, if one walks in the ways of God and develops a righteous personality, one realizes how unthinkable this is. The element of bein adam le-atzmo, the requirement to develop a virtuous personality, refines his character and teaches him that the focus is not acting, but being. A given action may be permitted, but if it is not conducive to ones divinely-inspired personality, the Jew who strives to achieve a godly character must eschew it to remain on track.
True, one might be nice to servants even without the goodness of the Torah; however, the extent of ones generosity, putting their needs before ones own, is connected to the beneficence of the Torah. It is the result of emulating God, Who, as it were, puts the needs of the Jews, His own servants, before His own. (See Likkutei Sichot Vol. xxxvii, p. 72.) This godly character can help us become godly beings.